These twinkling twenties comes along with these "when are you tying a knot?" questionaires.
You're in 20's, get married! Shadi will make you more responsible! Get married, its getting late, you're getting fat!
Is this same happening with you? I believe most of us are sailing in this boat of- "being 20's.
Being an Indian (especially Punjabi -_- ), not only your parents, but every well-wisher is worried for your marriage. And let me tell you this so-called "every well-wisher" list is so short that it includes- parents, relatives, neighbors, family friends, Sharma ji, Goyal ji, kanpur ke chachaji ki bahu ki behan ka pati and each and everyone."
**Sigh**
Once you step into your 20's and get a job, the rishtedaars get worried for your marriage! "When are you getting married?" becomes the hot gossip topic!
And if you happen to go to a wedding or any family function, you're fired with the questions of not getting married yet!
And here the shadi ke sawaal starts:
Aunti ji: Aur beta, we heard that you've completed graduation, doing a good job! Great! So when are you planning to get married?
Uncle ji: We have seen a guy/gal for you, meet him/her this weekend. See if things work between you both!
Sharmaji's son: When I was of your age, I had kids. This is the perfect age to settle down!
Me (in mind): Oh Please! Shut up.
And these rishtedaars will make sure that they fuel up your parents and convince them to start looking for a match for you.
Mr.Sharma (to mom): Your daughter has stepped into 20's, why are you not getting her married yet? Are you not worried for her wedding?
Mrs.Verma: I heard your daughter is working in an MNC and planning to study further. Make her understand that ultimately "making round gol-gol chapatis" will matter not these degrees.
Mrs.Goyal: I've an NRI match, if you say main baat chalaun?
The story does not ends here! They won't stop until your parents get convinced.
But every lock comes with a key. Next time don't get the blues when someone asks you shadi plans. Instead pop-up a question on them sarcastically. There's a little help for 20's troop:
Divert the conversation or turn it into joke. But be dismissive and answer in such a polite way that they never ask you or your parents again!
So, perfect reply when next time someone asks for shadi plans say:
And before getting into this shadi trap in 20's make a to-do list for your twinkling 20's. :)
Ditch the shadi ka ladoo for now and start making a to-do list! Because time is less but wishes are more.
You're in 20's, get married! Shadi will make you more responsible! Get married, its getting late, you're getting fat!
Is this same happening with you? I believe most of us are sailing in this boat of- "being 20's.
Being an Indian (especially Punjabi -_- ), not only your parents, but every well-wisher is worried for your marriage. And let me tell you this so-called "every well-wisher" list is so short that it includes- parents, relatives, neighbors, family friends, Sharma ji, Goyal ji, kanpur ke chachaji ki bahu ki behan ka pati and each and everyone."
**Sigh**
Once you step into your 20's and get a job, the rishtedaars get worried for your marriage! "When are you getting married?" becomes the hot gossip topic!
And if you happen to go to a wedding or any family function, you're fired with the questions of not getting married yet!
And here the shadi ke sawaal starts:
Aunti ji: Aur beta, we heard that you've completed graduation, doing a good job! Great! So when are you planning to get married?
Uncle ji: We have seen a guy/gal for you, meet him/her this weekend. See if things work between you both!
Sharmaji's son: When I was of your age, I had kids. This is the perfect age to settle down!
Me (in mind): Oh Please! Shut up.
And these rishtedaars will make sure that they fuel up your parents and convince them to start looking for a match for you.
Mr.Sharma (to mom): Your daughter has stepped into 20's, why are you not getting her married yet? Are you not worried for her wedding?
Mrs.Verma: I heard your daughter is working in an MNC and planning to study further. Make her understand that ultimately "making round gol-gol chapatis" will matter not these degrees.
Mrs.Goyal: I've an NRI match, if you say main baat chalaun?
The story does not ends here! They won't stop until your parents get convinced.
But every lock comes with a key. Next time don't get the blues when someone asks you shadi plans. Instead pop-up a question on them sarcastically. There's a little help for 20's troop:
- "What? Do you think I must get married? Well I'll take this into advisement!"
- "When are you getting married? (if that person is aslo single) :)
Divert the conversation or turn it into joke. But be dismissive and answer in such a polite way that they never ask you or your parents again!
So, perfect reply when next time someone asks for shadi plans say:
And before getting into this shadi trap in 20's make a to-do list for your twinkling 20's. :)
- Fulfill you dreams: Dreamt of completing masters or doctorate? Becoming a writer? Travelling world? Just chase your dreams before eating shadi ka ladoo!
- Live alone: Try living alone. You'll gain experiences for life.
- Learn something new: Learn a new language, playing guitar, swimming or anything you like. It's the right time to do it.
- Take a solo trip: Travel alone. Make the memories to cherish for life.
- Gift yourself something valuable: Gift yourself something expensive, worthy which you have been longing for long!
- Spend time with parents: You won't get this time back! Spend most of time with your family and friends.
- Save money: There are so many wish list items waiting to be struck off your list-all of which requires money. Save money to fulfill your wishes.
Ditch the shadi ka ladoo for now and start making a to-do list! Because time is less but wishes are more.
